Most people are confident in certain areas of life and less than confident in others. This is often the case with many INFPs. Perhaps as an INFP, you feel pretty sure that you’re a good listener, that you’re creative, and that you excel in your ability to show empathy to others. But your confidence might diminish when it comes to standing up for yourself in certain situations such as navigating a relationship with someone who is verbally abusive or when others dismissively put you and your ideas down, perhaps even resorting to name calling. If you’re an INFP who frequently deals with situations that seem to cut your confidence down, what can you do? Well, here are a few tips on protecting your self-esteem: 1. For starters, build relationships with people who seem to have healthy self-esteem and encourage their friends and loved ones to have a healthy sense of pride. This means they aren’t afraid to give people sincere compliments and support the ideas of others. These are the sorts of friends that you’ll need to heal. So, find them and appreciate them. 2. Secondly, set boundaries in your life with people who are the opposite. This means avoiding frequent interaction with people who call you derogatory names, make fun of you, constantly try to compete with you, or ridicule your goals and dreams. These individuals might be great people deep down, but it’s clear that at this point in their life they’re dealing with a personal issue that’s stopping them from treating you with the respect you deserve. So, right now, it may be best to love them from afar. This means, turning down any requests to hang out with them for fun, calling to check in on them or chat on a weekly basis, and the next time they say something uncalled for, politely letting them know that you don’t tolerate disrespectful remarks, so if they want the pleasure of your company, they need to learn how to treat you with respect. You’ll still care about them, and if they’re ever in a jam, you can still find a way to get them help- but that doesn’t mean you need to include them in your close circle of friends at this time. You must protect your well-being so that you can be there for the people in your life who really love you and support you. 3. Sit down and write a list of the things that you’re good at and any accomplishments or goals you’ve achieved in life. Take some time to reflect on the list and think about how much you’ve been able to make happen in life. 4. For long-term results, schedule some time with a therapist, counselor, or perhaps a life coach and ask them specifically to help you find ways to build your self-esteem and confidence.
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