Our society isn't always kind to quiet introverts and daydreamers. They're often ignored or made fun of for being different. It can be tough to value yourself under such conditions. So, what can INFPs who find themselves in such situations do to maintain a healthy amount of self-love? Experts suggest taking a little bit of time every day to think about what you appreciate about yourself and actively demonstrating love for yourself via self-care. It's also a great idea to make sure you eat healthy foods that make you feel good, get enough rest, and take time to show love to other people. If you have more advice on the topic, please feel free to leave a comment on the video below!
0 Comments
Most people are confident in certain areas of life and less than confident in others. This is often the case with many INFPs. Perhaps as an INFP, you feel pretty sure that you’re a good listener, that you’re creative, and that you excel in your ability to show empathy to others. But your confidence might diminish when it comes to standing up for yourself in certain situations such as navigating a relationship with someone who is verbally abusive or when others dismissively put you and your ideas down, perhaps even resorting to name calling. If you’re an INFP who frequently deals with situations that seem to cut your confidence down, what can you do? Well, here are a few tips on protecting your self-esteem: 1. For starters, build relationships with people who seem to have healthy self-esteem and encourage their friends and loved ones to have a healthy sense of pride. This means they aren’t afraid to give people sincere compliments and support the ideas of others. These are the sorts of friends that you’ll need to heal. So, find them and appreciate them. 2. Secondly, set boundaries in your life with people who are the opposite. This means avoiding frequent interaction with people who call you derogatory names, make fun of you, constantly try to compete with you, or ridicule your goals and dreams. These individuals might be great people deep down, but it’s clear that at this point in their life they’re dealing with a personal issue that’s stopping them from treating you with the respect you deserve. So, right now, it may be best to love them from afar. This means, turning down any requests to hang out with them for fun, calling to check in on them or chat on a weekly basis, and the next time they say something uncalled for, politely letting them know that you don’t tolerate disrespectful remarks, so if they want the pleasure of your company, they need to learn how to treat you with respect. You’ll still care about them, and if they’re ever in a jam, you can still find a way to get them help- but that doesn’t mean you need to include them in your close circle of friends at this time. You must protect your well-being so that you can be there for the people in your life who really love you and support you. 3. Sit down and write a list of the things that you’re good at and any accomplishments or goals you’ve achieved in life. Take some time to reflect on the list and think about how much you’ve been able to make happen in life. 4. For long-term results, schedule some time with a therapist, counselor, or perhaps a life coach and ask them specifically to help you find ways to build your self-esteem and confidence. Most INFPs and ENTPs are highly creative. It's easy to see how an INFP would be fascinated by the friendly, charming, and intelligent ENTP. How would these two personality types get along in a relationship? The video below gets into this subject. Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section! Most INFPs are quite gentle and even reticent, but when an INFP's anger is triggered, they can act like a completely different person. What can trigger their anger? And why do they get so emotional? The video below attempts to address these questions. Please feel free to share your thoughts on the subject in the comments section! Many INFPs are known for their ability to be good listeners and loyal supporters to loved ones, friends, and acquaintances who are going through tough times. These are great qualities that truly come in handy to those in need of a nonjudgmental and empathetic supporter. But these wonderful qualities can also attract extremely selfish people who crave a companion who will feed their damaged egos. Some of these people who are attracted to the seemingly gentle INFP may be narcissists. They are obsessed with powerful feel they're better than "average people," have a sense of entitlement, and tend to be jealous of others. They might love having an INFP in their lives as a cheerleader, but they won't always be kind to them. At some point, on a bad day, they'll likely use their favorite cheerleader as a punching bag- figuratively or literally. INFPs can avoid these damaging relationships by setting healthy boundaries with other people. This can be accomplished by letting others know that even though you love them you cannot give them all of your time. Set aside time every day for your own needs. And if this upsets someone, that may be a warning sign that their relationship with you is unhealthy. In some cases, you might realize that for your own well-being, you need to love certain people from a distance. This means wishing them well, but refusing to allow them into your home and social life as doing so would be a threat to your well-being. This is tough, but you have to protect yourself. If you're not okay, how will be fit to help the people you care about? Please feel free to share your thoughts on the subject in the comments section of the YouTube video below! Suppose you've taken a personality test and received "INFP" as a result, but you're not sure that it's an accurate portrayal of your personality? If that's the case, you may be on to something. It's been noted that INFPs and INFJs are often mistaken for one another. This is understandable as they're both deeply sensitive individuals with strong creativity and a great capacity for empathy. But there are a couple of differences between the two personality types. INFJS are analytical and pragmatic INFJ's are often seen as more structured and analytical. And though they often have an uncanny ability to understand the emotions of others, they sometimes struggle to identify and understand their own emptions. INFPs are highly creative and in touch with their feelings On the other hand, INFPs don't typically have a problem labeling and understanding the roots of their deepest emotions. They're also typically perceived as incredibly creative and spontaneous. So, if you think you may have been misidentified, it couldn't hurt to take the test again! Please feel free to share your thoughts on the subject in the comments section of the YouTube video below! Many INFPs are naturally gifted artists who excel at painting, acting, writing and other creative pursuits. They're also typically very empathetic idealists who often go out of their way to make life easier for the people they care about. That said, everyone has areas for growth and a number of INFPs may note that they have potential in areas related to appropriate self-care and becoming more detail oriented. Appropriate self-care When it comes to self-care, some experts note that INFPs can devote their full focus to a project, a cause or to the needs of a loved one. The intensity of the INFP's focus can lead to a lack of personal self-care. They might forget to eat, forgo sleep, and put off their own mental health/emotional needs. This can be dangerous if left unchecked. To resolve the issue, an INFP might organize their daily life by creating a calendar or to-do list with appropriate time slots for meals, sleep, fitness, and consistent doctor's appointments. In addition to this, it would be great if the INFP made time to talk their feelings out with a good friend or a trusted relative. Becoming more detail-oriented INFP's tend to focus on the big picture, which is often a positive way to view life. But details matter too, and sometimes when our "lens" is too wide, we forget to take care of the seemingly minor aspects of a big project. Truity.com says, "No matter how wonderfully inventive a new idea might be, it won't get anywhere if the logistical details required to put it into practice are ignored or neglected." So, INFPs who are focused on self-growth in this area will bite the bullet and address the boring details of a project or idea. If you're an INFP, what areas of self-growth have you conquered? Please feel free to share your experiences in the comments section of the YouTube video below! If you're trying to win your favorite INFP's heart, one or more of the five suggestions below just might work for you! Skip the chit chat and go straight to deep conversations. INFPs typically hate idle chit chat as much as they adore discussing heavy topics. Be sincere, even if you're afraid they'll judge you. Healthy INFPs value honesty and try to understand perspectives that are different from their own. Additionally, they can usually see through insincerity, and it turns them off. Compliment their principles, where possible. Many INFPs value their moral beliefs but feel misunderstood for holding so firmly to their principles. So, show them that you appreciate their integrity. Show fellow feeling Most INFPs fall for people who have no trouble showing empathy or kindness. Share yourself and gently encourage them to do the same Talk to them about your childhood, share your favorite books, movies, and memories. Then, encourage them to do the same at their own pace. I hope these suggestions help you to win your INFP's heart. If you have any thoughts on the topic, please feel free to leave them in the comments section of the related YouTube video below! INFPs are often sensitive to the feelings of others, idealistic, loyal, and romantic. So, it's no surprise that they can be excellent partners. But there are three missteps that a number of INFPs make in a relationship. Slow to trust and open up. INFPs who've been burned in previous relationships can be very slow to open up, even if they sincerely care for the other person. Protective of their alone-time and personal space. Most INFPs need lots of time alone to recharge their batteries, and when they feel as though their "me-time" is being invaded, even by a loved one, they can become incredibly cranky. Perfectionist tendencies that sabotage the relationship. A number of INFPs struggle with perfectionism and become overly critical of their efforts. This can lead to an inability to withstand even the slightest of criticism from a loved one. It can also turn into deep feelings of worthlessness, which can sabotage a relationship. Despite these obstacles, an INFP and their partner can strengthen their bond. Open communication and frequent affirmations of love can be a huge help in this regard. If you have any thoughts on the topic, please feel free to leave them in the comments section of the related YouTube video below! Sometimes INFPs become known as quirky loners. But even the most independent of INFPs would flourish in a loving relationship. So, what exactly does an INFP need in a partner? Here are three qualities that would make for a great match with an INFP: Someone who is grounded in reality. A number of INFPs tend to be creative thinkers who are so focused on their creative endeavors that they may at times forget to clean the house, pay the bills, walk the dog, or do their taxes. So, it can help to have a partner who gently guides them off of their cloud and back down to reality so they can help with the essential chores that are, unfortunately, part of daily life. Someone who is an open-minded confidant. An INFP would typically do well with a partner who is as open-minded and nonjudgmental as they are. This means someone who appreciates the INFP's creativity and is eager to listen to their ideas and take them seriously. Someone who is loyal. An INFP typically needs a partner who appreciates their loyalty and gives the same loyalty in return. I hope this provided you with a few ideas when it comes to INFPs and relationships! If you have any thoughts on the topic, please feel free to leave them in the comments section of the related YouTube video below! |
Archives |